Tomorrow night I am having a group of moms over for brownies, fellowship and discussion centered on the topic of "How to teach kids that would rather make forts all day." A topic I completely ripped off from Andrew Pudewa. You can download the talk here.
Since we are all moms and none of us have time to waste, I want the discussion to be a time of building up and leaving with some ideas and tools we may not have come with. So I thought some ground rules might be necessary. I came up with two essential ones, maybe there are more, but these are good start.
No Whining. We are not here to complain about our active, energetic kids. Every child is a blessing, a gift. God has given us these kids for a purpose and it is with deep gratitude that we consider how to teach them well. We dont need to convince anyone that it is hard to be a parent of any kid. Complaining can be a snowball, the more you do it, the more things you see to complain about. Avalanches are destructive, our discussion is to be constructive.
No Comparing. A wise man once said "Whenever you compare, it never comes out even. Either you are better or you are worse." God didn't give our kids to anyone else, just us. We aren't living anyone else's lives, just ours. There is no script for this adventure, we write it as we go. So let us focus on humility, on seeing ourselves as God does. We can glean from the wisdom and experience of others, but not hold them (or ourselves) up as measuring stick of success.